Planning a wedding is actually one of the most stressful things a relationship will endure. The bride in particular is saddled with an overwhelming amount of decisions and feels compelled to please everyone from friends to family who freely offer advice. The only way to stay sane when planning a wedding is to stay organized.
Begin by writing everything down (or keeping a file on the computer) include ideas, phone numbers, e-mails, deadlines, any piece of information that may prove valuable for the pulling off the big day. Create a calendar specifically about when to put down deposits, pay for goods/services, go dress shopping, etc. Stick to the time-line on the calendar.
Make a list for everything. There should be guest lists with addresses for save the dates and invitations. There should be project lists for any handmade items – including a list of supplies needed for each project. There should be lists of vendors with contact information. Aside from a handwritten or digital plan, the couple should keep a binder or folder for important documents. This could include receipts, contracts and sample menus.
These days many wedding options are available online. There are websites devoted to favors, bridesmaid dresses, cake and all other parts of a wedding. Browse these sites to get a better idea of the specific items wanted and needed for a wedding. Create a digital folder and bookmark sites that have links to items the bride and groom are interested in.
Aside from extreme organization, it takes a bit of diplomacy to plan a wedding. The bride and groom must stay true to themselves and their wants while at the same time being respectful of the input of friends and family. It is important to listen to all suggestions, especially from those who are close to the couple. Include those who genuinely want to help in the planning of the big day, and politely decline the help of those who would hinder the process. Be gracious to those who provide time and money when preparing for the wedding – it is especially important for the bride to remain calm and cheerful so as not to become a “bridezilla.” There are lots of people who want to contribute to a couple’s wedding plans. Find a way to use each person’s talents and expertise. Delegating will save the couple a lot of frustration and make others feel like they are an important part of the big day.
Ultimately, the couple must have final say in the wedding preparations. It is their day and will mark the beginning of their new lives together.
